We cannot deny the fact that co-sleeping with your baby or child has its benefits. They can fall asleep faster, and you can enjoy better and more sleep. However, there will come a point when you have to transition them from your bed to their crib or own bed. However, there will come a point when you have to transition them from your bed to their crib or own bed. Since it is the tendency of baby or child to reject anything that is new to them, you could expect that there will be lots of tears and tantrums. Well, worry not! I am here to help you out. Let me share with you some of the tips on how to stop co-sleeping that I have learned through all the years. If you are ready, read on!
What You Will Need
- Attractive Beddings
- Eye Catching Bedroom Decors
- Self-control (Lots of it!)
As mentioned above, transitions are difficult for babies and children. You should expect that they would cry their way to what they want. You will be tempted to get angry at them or spank them. Don’t. Be patient with the entire process. Everything will be alright in the end.
If you are not tempted to spank or reprimand them, you will surely be tempted to give in to what they want. Again, don’t! If you want this to work out, you need to be consistent if you want this to work.
A Step-by-Step Guide on How to Stop Co-sleeping
If you wish to make the transition easier for you and your baby, it would be best that you stop co-sleeping when your child reaches the ideal age of one. With that in mind, how to stop co-sleeping? Just simply follow these steps!
Step 1. Talk to your child about it.
Well, this is more for a toddler than a baby. Have the talk (no matter how much you dread it!) about 3-5 days before you plan on starting the transition. Let him know that your existing sleeping arrangements are about to change. This is a lot better than when you take him by surprise as it would cause him more anxiety and stress.
Pro Tip: To make the talk a lot more bearable for you and your child, you may want to explain to him what benefits he can get from the transition (i.e. bigger bed, bed sheets with his favorite character and bigger playing space).
Step 2. Fancy up his new sleeping place.
And since you have already mentioned the benefits to him, you might as well fulfill your promise. Try to decorate his new room or crib with his favorite character. Give him new pillows, bed sheets, and duffle - the works!
You may even want to go the extra mile and design his bed like a car (for boys) or like a unicorn (for girls). Do anything that you think would make him all excited and hyped up about his new sleeping place.
Pro Tip: If you want your child to have a feel of what independence is like, it would be best. If you would allow him to pick the type of beddings, room theme, and design that he wants. This will surely make him a lot more excited about moving into his room.
Step 3. Have a slumber party in his new room.
If his room is ready, then let’s get the party started! During the first few days of the transition, it would be best if you will sleep with your baby or child in the new room. In this way, you can make him feel comfortable in the new environment he will be sleeping in.
Step 4. Gradually make changes on his sleeping habits.
Once he is already familiar with the environment, try to make gradual changes in his sleeping habits. For the first few days, you can have him sleep alone in his new room or crib during his nap time. Once he is ready (after a few days again), you can transition him to sleeping in the crib or his room at night.
Step 5. Stay in the room until your baby falls asleep.
But that is not the end of it. After sleeping with him in his room for a few nights, the next step that you should take is to stay in his room until he falls asleep. You can sit on a chair placed near the crib or the bed and wait for him to fall asleep.
Pro Tip: Your little one may have some objections about this setup, and he will most likely ask you to sleep with him in the bed. Comfort him, hug him or hold his hand if you must but never ever get into bed with him because it will be a step backward in the process.
Step 6. Leave the room before your baby falls asleep.
After a few nights of doing step 5, let us now get to the final yet hardest part - leaving him in his room while he is still awake.
Once you feel that he is comfortable enough to be left on his own (there is no way we can help you tell when this would be though. You just have to trust your instinct), do your bedtime routine. Read him a story, help him settle in bed and tuck him in then leave before he falls asleep.
Pro Tip: When you are already at this stage, you can think of the transition as a done deal. However, you must expect that there would be nights when doing this is easy, but there will still be nights that there will be tears and tantrums.
Co-sleeping offers amazing sleeping benefits for both mother and child. But as we all know, all good things must come to an end, and there would come a time when you need to put a stop to this sleeping arrangement.
According to experts, the best time to transition your child from co-sleeping to sleeping in the crib or his own bed is at the age of 1. If your child is already more than one year old, you just have to follow the steps on how to stop co-sleeping mentioned above. I wish a smooth and hassle-free transition for you and your little one!
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